Not your grandma. I personally feel that wherever you go, and whatever you do, you take yourself with you. And that's why we have shit teachers and senate people in the driver seats of cabs or even in colleges when they're barely twenty five. Unofficially teaching jobs = veeery interesting. Met a sweet boy seven years my junior and was like woah not even going there. It's not about Peter making Mary-Jane hate him so she'd go away for her own good, it's about being better than revenge. I CANNOT deal with revengeful schmut-wannabes. People don't change for you. It's true that the hardest thing to accept is changing yourself so much for someone who won't even bend for you. But I've always believed that if it's coming out of your mouth it's you, even if it isn't what you think is the regular you. It's easy to go running back to what you think is being just when you never really were; thus shit happens. But if you take everything as it are, then you accept things and you're not a coward with some excuse or other. Ain't it.